From eating ice cream cones to packing suitcases, people have interesting tricks for getting things done in their own unique ways. Despite what many cookie-cutter movie scenes may tell us, the same is true when it comes to our sex lives. But I also hear from a lot of people—especially people with vaginas —who have a hard time orgasming with a partner or even alone. That can be frustrating and isolating, and we don't talk about it enough. Part of that stigma and struggle might come from thinking you have to orgasm in one certain way, which is totally not the case.